We have an inborn resistance to deliberate / negociate time management, we resist planning. We believe that spontaneity and being able not to have plans creates a sensation of freedom.
Exactly the opposite is true: The more you plan, the freer you will be!
This material is about time management, about making time and using time.
‘Time is relative’ it’s not a fact, and it depends on how we think about it. (When you take an exam or your child does, how do you perceive two hours? When you wait for some tests results how do you feel?)
Planning is delivering yourself the results you want, you create the exact life you want. You will not feel guilt for free time. You will feel much more in control and you will produce much more.
You may not want to plan because you are afraid of disappointment, maybe you have hard times with follow-through. It has to do with honoring commitments to ourselves, our relationship with ourselves. We treat other people often much better than we treat ourselves (if you set up a lunch meeting, you do not show up 30 minutes late or one day late). Why can’t we just be born with self-respect, complete loyalty to ourselves and our word?
- To plan is one of our human super power; we are not born with it, but we learn during childhood how to develop it and to overcome our survival instinct. One of the human super power is to create /make time. By planning you can literally make time. You decide how long you spend on one activity and you stick on it and don’t waste time.
- Making decisions strongly creates time. Indecision is one of the biggest waste of time (before and after taking decision; imagine hiking up a mountain and not deciding which way to go and changing trails). You need to plan your time, including time off, time to relax, time to play, time to be spontaneous / creative.
Commit to that decision, no matter how you end up feeling. Accept feeling doubt and scared.
- Take massive action – start doing things, not just wonder how. You create results. You may change the way of action, but not what you want to achieve. If the result is not the wanted one, than you can change the action and keep creating the result. Taking massive action created results and makes time.
- Honor the plan, make it mandatory for yourself, no matter how you feel. Usually you feel like not doing it, like procrastinating, you want to put it later in the day. But if you start doing it, you will feel better. The brain has to have a little battle with the survival part.
- Focus on one goal (constraint) – pick one and go for it, focus most of the energy into one goal at the time.
- Fail – failure means that you took massive action but you did not reach the result. The fear of failure makes us stop. /therefore you need to keep going forward, to keep learning, moving. If you fail, you know the trail is not good, you get the knowledge. The opposite of failure isn’t succeeding. The opposite is doing nothing. Ask each time what is the epic fail of the week.
- Learn to say no – you do not deviate from your plan. You learn to say no without explanation, you constrain your energy. You do not have to invent lies, you have to learn to be willing not to please others in order for you to have time. Serving is the opposite of pleasing.
- Delegation – delegate to others to do the things that are in their unique ability. Trade time. Focus on your unique ability.
- Completion – start things and finish them. If you do not finish what you started, you alienate your ability to trust yourself.
- Being busy is only your brain being noisy – you can do only one thing at a time, but you think at different more things. Being busy is mental laziness and lack of planning.
- Stop trying! Try something is not the same as doing something. Feelings drive actions. Feel the difference between trying and doing. Doing gives the feeling of determination, it drives to results.
- Stop distractions! Distraction is a mental stop from progress. It takes a conscious effort to keep the brain focused. Notice your distractions and notice what they are costing you.
- Stop multitasking – the cost of shifting from one task to other; we are better working on one thing to completion and then starting the next thing. It’s not about doing two things while driving, paying attention at two, but doing two different tasks. Multitasking makes everything take longer.
- The more you procrastinate, the less energy you have.
Text: Camelia Savin